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JDeragon April 19, 2009 at 6:51 pm

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StarGazon April 19, 2009 at 6:03 am

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prblogs April 19, 2009 at 5:47 am

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JDeragon April 19, 2009 at 5:46 am

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Jay Deragon March 21, 2008 at 11:55 am

WOW! Both Sunny and Michael have articulated a whole lot in just a few words but the meaning and impact of what you both have said is expansive and enlightening to say the least…enlightening to those that can see and hear beyond themselves……if you know what I mean 🙂

Thank you both for the input, the encouragement and the valuable insights worthy of being spread, one to one to millions… this is the kind of economy that is rich, deep, wide and self sustaining, the relationship economy at its best 🙂

Michael Pokocky March 21, 2008 at 7:22 am

So glad to see how you presented the idea Jay.

The most meaningful relationships I have with people I met on the social web are the ones where each of us engaged the other in conversations and over time a certain “trust” was built. My best friend John Dierckx and I have been speaking on a daily basis for over four or five years and have covered almost every topic that interests us. We have shared our personal legend with each other. We have shared our success and our failures both in the external world and in our own lives.

What John and I have discovered is that as we became more comfortable with each other we were able to ask of each other our ear, to listen to our dreams, our joys and sorrows. Furthermore we both are really interested in the social web and John firmly believed in the idea of building trust online like we do face to face.

Our story proves that the social web is about “what we’re willing to give up,” We chose to give up the internal fear that prevents relationships from advancing and growing.

Furthermore it is proof of what you say,”Giving up past perceptions, past experiences and forging ahead with the experience of “newness” in connecting with others, sharing with others and helping others achieve their objectives is the essence of the social web, give to your relations and returns come back unexpected and unforeseeable.” In order to do this with each other or anyone else for that matter in a social connect online it was necessary to have been of strong knowledge of one’s own personal self. Once you know who you are, or are not and express this honestly and truthfully in your relationships then there is the “opportunity” for growth.

As this new growth in who we are occurs we know when something of value will further that growth of the self. And we know that we experience things with others and ourselves that leads to “unexpected and unforeseeable” results. You are absolutely right there Jay.

Giving is what John and I talked about a lot. We agreed to agree that we must give without expectation absolutely. We must give for the sake of giving as you so well described to help et al.

For me I personally knew how to give unconditionally and when presented with the world-wide web cast of A New Earth I signed on for two reasons. The first was to experience from one of the best people Oprah the live event itself and second to see if I could know more about myself which at the end of the day allows me to interact with others in even better ways. I must admit the elusive Holy Grail of social networking was beyond me for so long, but once I got the message from the book and the online webcast I am seeing a new reason and I think the most powerful reason to know yourself better, or to become “awakened” as Eckhart Tolle says.

The core of the social web is relationships and the better one knows themselves the better is the outcomes in a Social Interactive Exchange. Add this to the knowledge you have put together in your new book The Emergence of The Relationship Economy and you have the recipe for success in all areas of your life.

Imagine how self informed people interacting socially on the web will feel as they see their efforts grow and are of value to others instead of being stagnant and without hope or understanding of why we socialize in the first place. This post helps to show the factors that must become one in order to be happy and being happy means a seamless flow of the power of our collective creativity.

Sunny March 21, 2008 at 6:42 am

i say: dood !!!

this is the best thing i have read from you yet…

i read the article you wrote about the Sarah Lacy interview with Mark Zuckerberg and wanted to comment on that, but i waited… (did i ever apologize for sending those nasty emails about your abuse of grammar, spelling, and syntax? 😛 ) i’m glad i did wait, because i see this article as a better reference point to approach things from.

the web (as i see it) is simply an outward manifestation of mankind’s inner world… we project outwardly into cyberspace those ideas and ideals that we form inside. it is written somewhere that “out of the heart the mouth speaks”… what we think, eventually finds it’s way out into our real and virtual lives. my experience as a watcher of people IRL and online tells me that we humans are unable to hide our true motives and views for very long… we find flamers In Real Life just as we find flamers Online… we find critics who have never attempted anything great, who live to tear down the efforts of others in order to assuage their own sense of inadequacy (is it just me or does anyone else note that it is typically the male of the species who are most likely to engage in these activities?) all the distortions of our inner worlds works their way out into the rivers of conversation….

your response, in the Sarah Lacy article, was particularly insightful… it was the only response one can offer- education… you gave a short and clear ‘teaching’ on the subject of humility, dignity, & respect. you gave personal examples… it was not preachy or condescending, but rather it was training… and it was, in fact, what the great religions would have rubber stamped as orthodox.

as we practice what we preach, we become authorized to share our truths with others… as we give, we earn the opportunity to offer wisdom also- of course there is no guarantee that it will be received, but we are obligated to make the effort because it is the right response to wrong (read: immature) thoughts, words, and actions. i doubt any of the kids who heckled this writer will ever read your post to gain this wisdom directly, but herein lies the nature of the social (human) web: they may receive it indirectly from others who have read it (or a friend of a friend of a friend of a friend who lives next door to a guy who did).

unless we start to approach all aspects of life (personal life and the web) from the human perspective- with sincerity, humility, and love- we will continue to make the same weary missteps and poor judgments that have characterized human history at large… and damn, it is a boringly short and sad list of repeated “sins”.

it’s not like the kids who berated Ms. Lacy were aberrant sociopaths or anything… they were just kids (like us- as we are or were or will be) who need wise, loving, and firm training in the everyday interactions we all participate in… it can only come as we attain some level of mastery ourselves… humility tells me that at some point, i’m going to need this same wise, loving, and firm guidance before the day is done… we must be prepared to receive the medicine we dish out. when we use other people for gain, it is no different than what these kids did… motives are infinitely, essentially, fundamentally important- building on a foundation of giving is the only one which is truly sustainable.

you didn’t elaborate upon the Tolle quote regarding the “only one spiritual teaching”, but i’m not afraid to make it known: love your neighbor.

now, i’m off to work before i stop meddlin’ and start preachin’.

good stuff, Jay.

Claire McLennan March 21, 2008 at 2:51 am

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